As a wife, your submission creates a vacuum that serves as an invitation. Abraham’s wife, Sarah, is an example of a woman following her husband’s lead (1 Peter 3:6). with Mrs. Toy Banks "The World's Most Satisfied Wife" - Duration: 46:43. His position as leader is biblical (1 Corinthians 11:3). If you are having doubts about your love, make a list of what you love about your partner. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. Don't let this happen. Even if I’ve never met you, I know one thing that is true about you and your spouse: you’re both married to an imperfect mate. I mean, it says that he “may be won without a word” (1 Peter 3:1). There are some things in a marriage that you and your spouse will never agree on. Let them. Don't postpone having a conversation with your spouse to identify the behaviors and face the issues that are creating problems in your marriage. WIFE have you BROKEN your HUSBAND'S SPIRIT? Don't Disagree in Front of the Kids . While discussing priorities, be sure to really try to understand where your spouse is coming from. If he likes a particular meal, you fix it often. You are only responsible for your own obedience to God, your being filled with His Spirit and your faithfulness and submission to Christ. Talk kindly. You won’t be missing God’s timing if you learn to keep in step with your spouse. Try to make a decision together. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Philippians 2:2-4 (NIV) says, “…make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. When arguments get heated, it's easy to get off track. A wife shows submission unto her husband when she allows him to take leadership in the relationship. And when he does talk, listen to what is being said and seek to take those opinions into account. Learn to love, it will serve you well. Here are some ways to communicate better with your partner or spouse when you don’t see eye to eye: 1. When these reckless behaviors are happening, you can’t sit idly by and give your tacit approval to destructive behaviors. Let’s hear what one wife has to say about her discovery of Ephesians 5:33. Here is the plain biblical command: “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. You can choose to act instead in a manner the Bible says is right. You please him in every way possible. I’m afraid I may have to give up being right.” Or you may say, “I understand you feel I don’t listen to you, but I’m afraid to talk because in the past I experienced you as wanting to prove you are right and I’m wrong.” How do you cope? There are times and seasons for everything. Don’t just try to make them understand your point. While I don’t know your situation, I would definitely disagree about you being your husband’s accountability partner. You don’t punish him by making him unhappy. Use a pen and paper to keep the conversation on point. “I Don’t Respect You” My husband and I had been fighting, like really badly. Leadership.” Then watch him come alive. When you and your spouse don’t agree Being married is hard work. This is an endless cycle, but the dynamics of it can be broken quickly if you no longer react. Then ask God how you should reply. When you reach a point where you no longer like each other, you’re in trouble. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. And then one day, you’re chatting and it hits you: You and your partner totally don’t agree on having kids. There is just no way that you will ever agree on it. When you ask your spouse a question, wait for an answer. Yet it is a topic that generates a lot of friction and heat, because the biblical viewpoint is about as diametrically opposed to that of the world as it could be. (3) Submission means not subverting your husband’s will and desires through deception, manipulation, or whining. When sharing your love for your spouse, express your concerns and fears about the future of your marriage. Don’t give in to the urge to let your silence be cold and stony. If he likes the house to be neat, you try to keep it that way. If your spouse thinks he is right and that’s that, then leave it. You cannot change your husband. Submit. Especially your children. I don’t want to argue or sound like I don’t agree because that’s not the case entirely. Your kids will quickly take note of where the disharmony lies, and they will use this to their advantage. It could be a lot of things, ... and her husband. Your husband has to know from God. Mrs. Toy Banks 814 views When the two of you start to conduct your marriage this way, you will find that deeper joy you’ve been looking for. I don’t want to make assumptions, but I do have to remind you that our first ministry is to our family. Many men find communication to be difficult. Submission is not agreeing on everything. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Pray that God’s will be done (not for your own way to be done). Your consistent, sweet, silent response to poor behavior may be the very thing God uses to change your husband. Don’t Be Hypocritical. You’re partners, supporters, and cheerleaders for each other. Don’t interrupt. You and your partner probably don’t always agree on which food to buy, what music to listen to, and what kind of house to live in. If you’re clearly stating that what you think is best to work on will more directly serve the company goals, your manager will likely praise you for your vision and prioritization skills, rather than think you’re a frazzled spazball of negative energy. 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